Dear Christina, I have a boss that is stifling my career. I need to move past him. It has gotten to a ridiculous point. He controls my pay, promotions, etc. I believe he feels threatened by my education and experience. -Clay Dear Clay, Thank you for writing in. I’m sorry to hear that you feel…
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Dear Christina, Here are my questions for you: Why can’t I seem to accomplish my dreams? Why do I negotiate against myself when it comes to doing the things that I know I should be doing, the things that I schedule myself to do? Why am I still relying on a job rather than relying…
Dear Christina, How do I stop getting attached to people so quickly? This guy and I have been talking for a bit and decided to be friends with benefits and I really like him like a lot. But as of now he’s taking a break from social media, which is the platform we talk on,…
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Dear Christina, I just want clarity on my relationship because I’m having trouble being vulnerable in my connection. I feel like there’s a disconnect every time things don’t go a certain way and I’m working on not taking things so personally, even though he’s my first real connection. – Simone Dear Simone, Thank you for…
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Dear Christina, My boyfriend of seven months broke up with me on Friday. We did long distance (bordering states) and saw each other about two weekends a month since he’s a Marine. Our relationship seemed healthy, and we discussed plans for engagement when he gets back from deployment (October-April). We talked about our future together…
Dear Christina, The other day I saw a Bible verse that said honor God in all things that I do. How do I even do that? What does that look like? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in and asking such a simple yet profound question. Interestingly, I believe that the answer to healing…
Dear Christina, I’ve heard you talk before about how our feelings can either be rational or irrational and the way you describe it makes so much sense. I’ve never heard someone describe it like you do. Can you describe it again so that I can really get it? It was so helpful to me the…
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Dear Christina, Why do people hurt me so much? -Kelsea Dear Kelsea, Thank you for writing in and thank you for asking such a beautiful and vulnerable question. The short answer is this: People do things that hurt you because you have a wound within you that gets triggered when someone says/does a certain thing.…
Dear Christina, How do I get out of a relationship that I know isn’t right for me, but I can’t seem to make the jump? -Trisha Dear Trisha, Thank you for writing in. Great question. 🙂 I have two initial questions: First, how do you know they’re not right for you? Do you fight a…
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Dear Christina, Why do some people have so much negative energy? -Josh Dear Josh, Thank you for writing in! There are a lot of reasons a person might have a lot of negative energy. But, at the core of nearly every reason is because they likely also carry a lot of emotional pain and/or carry…
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Dear Christina, What creates negative energy in us? -Shannon Dear Shannon, Thanks for writing in and asking such a simple but powerful question! I’ve broken my response down into sections because there’s a lot here. Actually, there’s far more that I’d like to communicate, however, there’s only so much I can fit into a single…
Would you believe me if I told you that your pain was purposeful? That there is a reason you feel emotional pain and that reason can lead you to a more purpose-filled and powerful way of being? Many years ago, I would have thought that was BS. Many years ago, I would have said that…
Have you ever shamed yourself for feeling what you feel? Have you ever talked down to yourself and wished you felt different than you do? So often when I am working with someone, they shame themselves for their feelings or they belittle themselves for being “so stupid” to get hurt or angry or worked up…
Did you know that almost every emotional reaction you have is a result of some past experience, some past painful moment, that is being expressed in the present? And that it’s possible to clear the old pain so that you can live more happily in the present moment? Sounds bizarre, I know. But, perhaps a…
Dear Christina, This is going to be hard to convey in one entry. I’m 33 and recently moved out of living with ex-fiancé. I have done weekly therapy for 9 months and tried really hard to learn healthy/respectful/productive ways to argue, and no progress was made. We were together for 4 years. I’d been trying…
Dear Christina, Why can’t I push past the barriers in my mind, whether they originated from me or others? I used to think that I couldn’t push past my limits, didn’t find a reason to, or just didn’t try to until recently where I’ve made the effort to change my mindset and how I view…
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Dear Christina, I keep sabotaging my health…overeating and drinking the last four years after not drinking for 20 years. Please help. ~Tami Dear Tami, Thank you for writing in. In your submission, you didn’t include information about what might be going on in your life that’s causing you to change your patterns and begin sabotaging…
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Dear Christina, Thank you for the last video you made about my mom. After listening to it I realized that I still have some resentment towards her and my family for their lack of belief in me and for misjudging me and making me feel like I had to always show up in a certain…
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Dear Christina, This weekend I went out to eat with my mom and aunt. And it was interesting for me to see the situation my mom is in. For basically all my life, she had been pushing me to become a nurse because “I’ll always have a job”, she would say. But to this day…
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Dear Christina, I’m having a bit of a “what’s next” moment and I think I’m being called to homeschool my baby girl. I say this because she’s going to school everyday and just sitting there or doing whatever in class. This is frustrating because I am coming home and helping her with her homework but…
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Dear Christina, I was doing some reflecting, and it came to my attention that in a way I fear success. Mainly because I’ve never really accomplished anything yet (nothing really to brag about). I was thinking to myself about how much I’d make if I’d do my first real estate deal. Even on the low…
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Dear Christina, How do I still love the people who do things I hate? I have a brother-in-law who does things that I absolutely hate. He is always being negative and mean to my sister and he treats her poorly. And I just can’t help but hate him for it. I don’t want to hate…
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Dear Christina, I wanted to know if there was a reason why I keep attracting men that are taken, men that have girlfriends, men that are in situationships, men that have a baby momma and kids at home, men that are married. I never come across someone that is single, and most of the time…
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Have you ever thought about how much your mindset matters in relationship to how it feels to live your life? Most people don’t. Most people just feel what they feel and they think everyone else is responsible for it. I used to, too. But, I’ve learned, there’s another way to be; one that’s freeing. I…
Have you ever wondered if it’s possible to love someone you hate? I mean, why the hell would anyone want to do that?! Well, read on. There’s a really important reason why. Loving someone you hate. It’s probably one of the most difficult concepts to grasp. And probably one that seems illogical. Why on earth…
Have you ever longed for an ex after a breakup? Have you ever continued to love them long after they left your life? If so, listen up. I am often asked “how do I stop loving my ex?” And the number one thing I say to people is stop trying to stop. The continued love…
Dear Christina, Truly, if to be honest, I feel as though I am heartbroken over a previous marriage. I am stuck also in grief after also losing my mom at the same time as divorce. Now feeling very lonely though in a relationship and question a lot, do I matter. Don’t understand why this loneliness…
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Did you know that oftentimes we find ourselves in relationships and situations that don’t feel good simply because we never took the time to really consider what would feel good? Think about that. When’s the last time that you sat down and envisioned what your perfect job would look like and feel like? When’s the…
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