Dear Christina, I have a boss that is stifling my career. I need to move past him. It has gotten to a ridiculous point. He controls my pay, promotions, etc. I believe he feels threatened by my education and experience. -Clay Dear Clay, Thank you for writing in. I’m sorry to hear that you feel like your boss is stifling your career. I know there are many people who … [Read more...] about How do I move past a boss who’s blocking my career growth?
Why can’t I accomplish my dreams?
Dear Christina, Here are my questions for you: I started following a new internet personality. I really like what he has to say despite him being very offensive to most people. After watching a lot of his content and joining his course, I realized how much of a lazy loser I am. I’ve been in the program for 3+ months and made $0. Where as people younger than me (14-15 … [Read more...] about Why can’t I accomplish my dreams?
How do I handle a “friends with benefits” situation?
Dear Christina, How do I stop getting attached to people so quickly? This guy and I have been talking for a bit and decided to be friends with benefits and I really like him like a lot. But as of now he’s taking a break from social media, which is the platform we talk on, but I can’t help but to anxiously wait until he texts me back and it’s got me really emotional for some … [Read more...] about How do I handle a “friends with benefits” situation?
How do I handle a recent breakup?
Dear Christina, My boyfriend of seven months broke up with me on Friday. We did long distance (bordering states) and saw each other about two weekends a month since he’s a Marine. Our relationship seemed healthy, and we discussed plans for engagement when he gets back from deployment (October-April). We talked about our future together while having fun in the present. He … [Read more...] about How do I handle a recent breakup?
Why do I feel disconnected from my partner every time there’s conflict?
Dear Christina, I just want clarity on my relationship because I'm having trouble being vulnerable in my connection. I feel like there's a disconnect every time things don’t go a certain way and I'm working on not taking things so personally, even though he’s my first real connection. - Simone Dear Simone, Thank you for writing in and thank you for asking for … [Read more...] about Why do I feel disconnected from my partner every time there’s conflict?
How do I honor God in all things?
Dear Christina, The other day I saw a Bible verse that said honor God in all things that I do. How do I even do that? What does that look like? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in and asking such a simple yet profound question. Interestingly, I believe that the answer to healing the world and the heart and mind of every human lies in the answer to … [Read more...] about How do I honor God in all things?
How do I stop obsessing over people and things?
Dear Christina, How do I stop obsessing over people and things all the time? It's like my thoughts run away from me and I can't control them. I would appreciate any suggestions you may have. -Anonymous Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in; many people have this same issue and so I'm thankful to be able to create a free coaching response to help you all. In … [Read more...] about How do I stop obsessing over people and things?
How do I know if my feelings are rational or irrational?
Dear Christina, I've heard you talk before about how our feelings can either be rational or irrational and the way you describe it makes so much sense. I've never heard someone describe it like you do. Can you describe it again so that I can really get it? It was so helpful to me the first time I heard you say it. -Justin Dear Justin, Hi! Thanks for writing in. I … [Read more...] about How do I know if my feelings are rational or irrational?
Why Do People Hurt Me So Much?
Dear Christina, Why do people hurt me so much? -Kelsea Dear Kelsea, Thank you for writing in and thank you for asking such a beautiful and vulnerable question. The short answer is this: People do things that hurt you because you have a wound within you that gets triggered when someone says/does a certain thing. The good news is that if you are feeling the wound, … [Read more...] about Why Do People Hurt Me So Much?
How Do I Get Out of a Relationship That Isn’t Right for Me?
Dear Christina, How do I get out of a relationship that I know isn't right for me, but I can't seem to make the jump? -Trisha Dear Trisha, Thank you for writing in. Great question. :) I have some initial questions: First, how do you know they're not right for you? Do you fight a lot? Feel small in their presence? Get triggered a lot? Feel bored around … [Read more...] about How Do I Get Out of a Relationship That Isn’t Right for Me?
Why Do Some People Have Such Negative Energy?
Dear Christina, Why do some people have so much negative energy? -Josh Dear Josh, Thank you for writing in! There are a lot of reasons a person might have a lot of negative energy. But, at the core of nearly every reason is because they likely also carry a lot of emotional pain and/or carry a lot of other people’s pain, and don’t know how to clear any of … [Read more...] about Why Do Some People Have Such Negative Energy?
What Creates Negative Energy in Us?
Dear Christina, What creates negative energy in us? -Shannon Dear Shannon, Thanks for writing in and asking such a simple but powerful question! I've broken my response down into sections because there's a lot here. Actually, there's far more that I'd like to communicate, however, there's only so much I can fit into a single blog post. So I've tried to keep it … [Read more...] about What Creates Negative Energy in Us?
How Can My Pain be Purposeful?
Would you believe me if I told you that your pain was purposeful? That there is a reason you feel emotional pain and that reason can lead you to a more purpose-filled and powerful way of being? Many years ago, I would have thought that was BS. Many years ago, I would have said that the only reason I was feeling pain was because [blank] and [blank] and [blank] were doing … [Read more...] about How Can My Pain be Purposeful?
Your Feelings Don’t Have to Make Sense
Have you ever shamed yourself for feeling what you feel? Have you ever talked down to yourself and wished you felt differently than you do? So often when I am working with someone, they shame themselves for their feelings or they belittle themselves for being “so stupid” to get hurt or angry or worked up over [blank] or [blank] or [blank]. And I have to lovingly remind … [Read more...] about Your Feelings Don’t Have to Make Sense
How pain from the past shows up in the present moment
Did you know that almost every emotional reaction you have is a result of some past experience, some past painful moment, that is being expressed in the present? And that it's possible to clear the old pain so that you can live more happily in the present moment? Sounds bizarre, I know. But, perhaps a personal story from something that just happened to me will help me to … [Read more...] about How pain from the past shows up in the present moment