Would you believe me if I told you that your pain was purposeful? That there is a reason you feel emotional pain and that reason can lead you to a more purpose-filled and powerful way of being? Many years ago, I would have thought that was BS. Many years ago, I would have said that the only reason I was feeling pain was because [blank] and [blank] and [blank] were doing … [Read more...] about How Can My Pain be Purposeful?
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Your Feelings Don’t Have to Make Sense
Have you ever shamed yourself for feeling what you feel? Have you ever talked down to yourself and wished you felt differently than you do? So often when I am working with someone, they shame themselves for their feelings or they belittle themselves for being “so stupid” to get hurt or angry or worked up over [blank] or [blank] or [blank]. And I have to lovingly remind … [Read more...] about Your Feelings Don’t Have to Make Sense
How pain from the past shows up in the present moment
Did you know that almost every emotional reaction you have is a result of some past experience, some past painful moment, that is being expressed in the present? And that it's possible to clear the old pain so that you can live more happily in the present moment? Sounds bizarre, I know. But, perhaps a personal story from something that just happened to me will help me to … [Read more...] about How pain from the past shows up in the present moment
How Do I Still Love the People Who Do Things I Hate?
Dear Christina, How do I still love the people who do things I hate? I have a brother-in-law who does things that I absolutely hate. He is always being negative and mean to my sister and he treats her poorly. And I just can’t help but hate him for it. I don’t want to hate him, but I do. Please help me. -Janice Dear Janice, Thank you for writing in. :) You’re … [Read more...] about How Do I Still Love the People Who Do Things I Hate?
Why Your Mindset Matters
Have you ever thought about how much your mindset matters in relationship to how it feels to live your life? Most people don't. Most people just feel what they feel and they think everyone else is responsible for it. I used to, too. But, I've learned, there's another way to be; one that's freeing. I used to think that everyone else was responsible for how I felt in any given … [Read more...] about Why Your Mindset Matters
Loving the People Who Do Things that Make them Easy to Hate
Have you ever wondered if it's possible to love someone you hate? I mean, why the hell would anyone want to do that?! Well, read on. There's a really important reason why. Loving someone you hate. It's probably one of the most difficult concepts to grasp. And probably one that seems illogical. Why on earth would someone want to love a person they hate? And what does "loving … [Read more...] about Loving the People Who Do Things that Make them Easy to Hate
Longing for An Ex Even After You Breakup
Have you ever longed for an ex after a breakup? Have you ever continued to love them long after they left your life? If so, listen up. I am often asked “how do I stop loving my ex?” And the number one thing I say to people is stop trying to stop. The continued love serves a purpose, and it’s an important one. Now, before I get started, I'll warn you: This post has some … [Read more...] about Longing for An Ex Even After You Breakup
An Important Part of Finding the Perfect Mate
Did you know that oftentimes we find ourselves in relationships and situations that don't feel good simply because we never took the time to really consider what would feel good? Think about that. When's the last time that you sat down and envisioned what your perfect job would look like and feel like? When's the last time you sat down and wrote out all the qualities you … [Read more...] about An Important Part of Finding the Perfect Mate