Dear Christina, I have a boss that is stifling my career. I need to move past him. It has gotten to a ridiculous point. He controls my pay, promotions, etc. I believe he feels threatened by my education and experience. -Clay Dear Clay, Thank you for writing in. I’m sorry to hear that you feel like your boss is stifling your career. I know there are many people who … [Read more...] about What to Do When Your Boss is Blocking Your Career Growth
Dear Christina, Here are my questions for you: I started following a new internet personality. I really like what he has to say despite him being very offensive to most people. After watching a lot of his content and joining his course, I realized how much of a lazy loser I am. I’ve been in the program for 3+ months and made $0. Where as people younger than me (14-15 … [Read more...] about Why can’t I accomplish my dreams?
Dear Christina, How do I stop getting attached to people so quickly? This guy and I have been talking for a bit and decided to be friends with benefits and I really like him like a lot. But as of now he’s taking a break from social media, which is the platform we talk on, but I can’t help but to anxiously wait until he texts me back and it’s got me really emotional for some … [Read more...] about How do I handle a “friends with benefits” situation?
Dear Christina, I just want clarity on my relationship because I'm having trouble being vulnerable in my connection. I feel like there's a disconnect every time things don’t go a certain way and I'm working on not taking things so personally, even though he’s my first real connection. - Simone Dear Simone, Thank you for writing in and thank you for asking for … [Read more...] about Why do I feel disconnected from my partner every time there’s conflict?
Dear Christina, My boyfriend of seven months broke up with me on Friday. We did long distance (bordering states) and saw each other about two weekends a month since he’s a Marine. Our relationship seemed healthy, and we discussed plans for engagement when he gets back from deployment (October-April). We talked about our future together while having fun in the present. He … [Read more...] about How do I handle a recent breakup?
Dear Christina, The other day I saw a Bible verse that said honor God in all things that I do. How do I even do that? What does that look like? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in and asking such a simple yet profound question. Interestingly, I believe that the answer to healing the world and the heart and mind of every human lies in the answer to … [Read more...] about How do I honor God in all things?
Dear Christina, I've heard you talk before about how our feelings can either be rational or irrational and the way you describe it makes so much sense. I've never heard someone describe it like you do. Can you describe it again so that I can really get it? It was so helpful to me the first time I heard you say it. -Justin Dear Justin, Hi! Thanks for writing in. I … [Read more...] about How do I know if my feelings are rational or irrational?
Dear Christina, Why do people hurt me so much? -Kelsea Dear Kelsea, Thank you for writing in and thank you for asking such a beautiful and vulnerable question. The short answer is this: People do things that hurt you because you have a wound within you that gets triggered when someone says/does a certain thing. The good news is that if you are feeling the wound, … [Read more...] about Why Do People Hurt Me So Much?
Dear Christina, How do I get out of a relationship that I know isn't right for me, but I can't seem to make the jump? -Trisha Dear Trisha, Thank you for writing in. Great question. :) I have two initial questions: First, how do you know they're not right for you? Do you fight a lot? Feel small in their presence? Get triggered a lot? Feel bored around them? … [Read more...] about How Do I Get Out of a Relationship That Isn’t Right for Me?
Dear Christina, Why do some people have so much negative energy? -Josh Dear Josh, Thank you for writing in! There are a lot of reasons a person might have a lot of negative energy. But, at the core of nearly every reason is because they likely also carry a lot of emotional pain and/or carry a lot of other people’s pain, and don’t know how to clear any of … [Read more...] about Why Do Some People Have Such Negative Energy?
Dear Christina, What creates negative energy in us? -Shannon Dear Shannon, Thanks for writing in and asking such a simple but powerful question! I've broken my response down into sections because there's a lot here. Actually, there's far more that I'd like to communicate, however, there's only so much I can fit into a single blog post. So I've tried to keep it … [Read more...] about What Creates Negative Energy in Us?
Dear Christina, This is going to be hard to convey in one entry. I'm 33 and recently moved out of living with ex-fiancé. I have done weekly therapy for 9 months and tried really hard to learn healthy/respectful/productive ways to argue, and no progress was made. We were together for 4 years. I'd been trying to get pregnant for the last 9 months without any success, which now … [Read more...] about My life isn’t the way I want it to be. How do I stop being so angry at everyone and everything?
Dear Christina, Why can’t I push past the barriers in my mind, whether they originated from me or others? I used to think that I couldn’t push past my limits, didn’t find a reason to, or just didn’t try to until recently where I’ve made the effort to change my mindset and how I view myself. I want to be able to move on and move forward. But it seems to me that I can’t … [Read more...] about Help! Why can’t I push past the barriers that are in my mind?
Dear Christina, I keep sabotaging my health...overeating and drinking the last four years after not drinking for 20 years. Please help. ~Tami Dear Tami, Thank you for writing in. In your submission, you didn’t include information about what might be going on in your life that’s causing you to change your patterns and begin sabotaging your health, so I am limited … [Read more...] about Help! Why do I keep sabotaging my health with overeating and drinking?
Dear Christina, Thank you for the last video you made about my mom. After listening to it I realized that I still have some resentment towards her and my family for their lack of belief in me and for misjudging me and making me feel like I had to always show up in a certain way to get their love and attention. I find it hard for me to forgive them. I still feel the pain … [Read more...] about How do I forgive my mom and my family for the pain they caused me?