Dear Christina, How do I stop getting attached to people so quickly? This guy and I have been talking for a bit and decided to be friends with benefits and I really like him like a lot. But as of now he’s taking a break from social media, which is the platform we talk on, but I can’t help but to anxiously wait until he texts me back and it’s got me really emotional for some … [Read more...] about How do I handle a “friends with benefits” situation?
Self-Love / Self-Worth
How do I handle a recent breakup?
Dear Christina, My boyfriend of seven months broke up with me on Friday. We did long distance (bordering states) and saw each other about two weekends a month since he’s a Marine. Our relationship seemed healthy, and we discussed plans for engagement when he gets back from deployment (October-April). We talked about our future together while having fun in the present. He … [Read more...] about How do I handle a recent breakup?
Why do I feel disconnected from my partner every time there’s conflict?
Dear Christina, I just want clarity on my relationship because I'm having trouble being vulnerable in my connection. I feel like there's a disconnect every time things don’t go a certain way and I'm working on not taking things so personally, even though he’s my first real connection. - Simone Dear Simone, Thank you for writing in and thank you for asking for … [Read more...] about Why do I feel disconnected from my partner every time there’s conflict?
How do I honor God in all things?
Dear Christina, The other day I saw a Bible verse that said honor God in all things that I do. How do I even do that? What does that look like? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in and asking such a simple yet profound question. Interestingly, I believe that the answer to healing the world and the heart and mind of every human lies in the answer to … [Read more...] about How do I honor God in all things?
Why Do People Hurt Me So Much?
Dear Christina, Why do people hurt me so much? -Kelsea Dear Kelsea, Thank you for writing in and thank you for asking such a beautiful and vulnerable question. The short answer is this: People do things that hurt you because you have a wound within you that gets triggered when someone says/does a certain thing. The good news is that if you are feeling the wound, … [Read more...] about Why Do People Hurt Me So Much?
How Can My Pain be Purposeful?
Would you believe me if I told you that your pain was purposeful? That there is a reason you feel emotional pain and that reason can lead you to a more purpose-filled and powerful way of being? Many years ago, I would have thought that was BS. Many years ago, I would have said that the only reason I was feeling pain was because [blank] and [blank] and [blank] were doing … [Read more...] about How Can My Pain be Purposeful?
Your Feelings Don’t Have to Make Sense
Have you ever shamed yourself for feeling what you feel? Have you ever talked down to yourself and wished you felt differently than you do? So often when I am working with someone, they shame themselves for their feelings or they belittle themselves for being “so stupid” to get hurt or angry or worked up over [blank] or [blank] or [blank]. And I have to lovingly remind … [Read more...] about Your Feelings Don’t Have to Make Sense
How pain from the past shows up in the present moment
Did you know that almost every emotional reaction you have is a result of some past experience, some past painful moment, that is being expressed in the present? And that it's possible to clear the old pain so that you can live more happily in the present moment? Sounds bizarre, I know. But, perhaps a personal story from something that just happened to me will help me to … [Read more...] about How pain from the past shows up in the present moment
My life isn’t the way I want it to be. How do I stop being so angry at everyone and everything?
Dear Christina, This is going to be hard to convey in one entry. I'm 33 and recently moved out of living with ex-fiancé. I have done weekly therapy for 9 months and tried really hard to learn healthy/respectful/productive ways to argue, and no progress was made. We were together for 4 years. I'd been trying to get pregnant for the last 9 months without any success, which now … [Read more...] about My life isn’t the way I want it to be. How do I stop being so angry at everyone and everything?
Why do I keep sabotaging my health with overeating and drinking?
Dear Christina, I keep sabotaging my health...overeating and drinking the last four years after not drinking for 20 years. Please help. ~Tami Dear Tami, Thank you for writing in. In your submission, you didn’t include information about what might be going on in your life that’s causing you to change your patterns and begin sabotaging your health, so I am limited … [Read more...] about Why do I keep sabotaging my health with overeating and drinking?
How do I forgive my mom and my family for the pain they caused me?
Dear Christina, Thank you for the last video you made about my mom. After listening to it I realized that I still have some resentment towards her and my family for their lack of belief in me and for misjudging me and making me feel like I had to always show up in a certain way to get their love and attention. I find it hard for me to forgive them. I still feel the pain … [Read more...] about How do I forgive my mom and my family for the pain they caused me?
How do I handle my mom’s dreams for my life?
Dear Christina, This weekend I went out to eat with my mom and aunt. And it was interesting for me to see the situation my mom is in. For basically all my life, she had been pushing me to become a nurse because "I'll always have a job", she would say. But to this day she is looking for a new job, on unemployment, and never looking to retire. -Anonymous Dear … [Read more...] about How do I handle my mom’s dreams for my life?
Why do I keep attracting men who are taken?
Dear Christina, I wanted to know if there was a reason why I keep attracting men that are taken, men that have girlfriends, men that are in situationships, men that have a baby momma and kids at home, men that are married. I never come across someone that is single, and most of the time that I'm meeting men who are taken, it’s unintentional. For example, I started a new … [Read more...] about Why do I keep attracting men who are taken?
Why Your Mindset Matters
Have you ever thought about how much your mindset matters in relationship to how it feels to live your life? Most people don't. Most people just feel what they feel and they think everyone else is responsible for it. I used to, too. But, I've learned, there's another way to be; one that's freeing. I used to think that everyone else was responsible for how I felt in any given … [Read more...] about Why Your Mindset Matters
Why We Should Love the People We Hate
Have you ever wondered if it's possible to love someone you hate? I mean, why the hell would anyone want to do that?! Well, read on. There's a really important reason why. Loving someone you hate. It's probably one of the most difficult concepts to grasp. And probably one that seems illogical. Why on earth would someone want to love a person they hate? And what does "loving … [Read more...] about Why We Should Love the People We Hate