Dear Christina,
How do you co-parent with an ex – someone who is extremely narcissistic and has a lot of trauma… tried to manipulate the child.
-Anonymous
Dear Anonymous,
Thank you for sharing with me the challenge you’re facing on your parenting journey.
Below is the video I created for you. Being true to me, I flipped the problem you are perceiving on its head and give you a whole new way to look at the experience so that you have a chance of healing, growing, and becoming an even better parent than you knew you could.
This doesn’t mean that the journey you’re on is easy; it is not. This doesn’t mean that you won’t hurt, and struggle, and rage throughout the unfolding process … you may. What it does mean though, is that if you’re able to connect to the higher reason for the pain, and for the journey unfolding as it is, then you’ll be able to heal, and grow, and experience more happiness and joy than you ever thought possible, and the other parent doesn’t have to change at all in order for you to be able to have a changed experience with yourself, life, them…. and a changed experience with your child.
That’s the power in the Consciously Overcoming® tools and strategies I teach: they are about giving you the tools you need to break free so that you can live a life full of peace, love, joy, and harmony without regard to how others are showing up and treating you; them being who they are has less of an effect on you.
You see, this person, your ex, is giving you the gift of being able to heal and grow in ways you can’t even begin to see because they trigger you and bring up feelings of anger, resentment, fear, etc. But, I’ve been where you are and so I can say with confidence and surety that if you take the lessons they are bringing forth and you choose to grow from them, rather than blame them, you will be a much better person, partner, and parent because of them. And one day you’ll be thanking them for showing you all the places within you that were ready to heal, grow, and transform so that you could cause the happiest and fullest life for yourself and your child now and for generations to come.
And that’s some powerful (in your full power) stuff!
Here’s your video:
I hope this is helpful to you. Feel free to write back in should you have something else you need help with. If you want to share specific things your ex does, I can help you find your opportunities to heal and grow as a result of them.
With love, gratitude, grit, and grace,
