Dear Christina, I have a boss that is stifling my career. I need to move past him. It has gotten to a ridiculous point. He controls my pay, promotions, etc. I believe he feels threatened by my education and experience. -Clay Dear Clay, Thank you for writing in. I’m sorry to hear that you feel like your boss is stifling your career. I know there are many people who … [Read more...] about How do I move past a boss who’s blocking my career growth?
Why can’t I accomplish my dreams?
Dear Christina, Here are my questions for you: I started following a new internet personality. I really like what he has to say despite him being very offensive to most people. After watching a lot of his content and joining his course, I realized how much of a lazy loser I am. I’ve been in the program for 3+ months and made $0. Where as people younger than me (14-15 … [Read more...] about Why can’t I accomplish my dreams?
How do I handle a “friends with benefits” situation?
Dear Christina, How do I stop getting attached to people so quickly? This guy and I have been talking for a bit and decided to be friends with benefits and I really like him like a lot. But as of now he’s taking a break from social media, which is the platform we talk on, but I can’t help but to anxiously wait until he texts me back and it’s got me really emotional for some … [Read more...] about How do I handle a “friends with benefits” situation?
How do I honor God in all things?
Dear Christina, The other day I saw a Bible verse that said honor God in all things that I do. How do I even do that? What does that look like? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in and asking such a simple yet profound question. Interestingly, I believe that the answer to healing the world and the heart and mind of every human lies in the answer to … [Read more...] about How do I honor God in all things?
How do I stop obsessing over people and things?
Dear Christina, How do I stop obsessing over people and things all the time? It's like my thoughts run away from me and I can't control them. I would appreciate any suggestions you may have. -Anonymous Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in; many people have this same issue and so I'm thankful to be able to create a free coaching response to help you all. In … [Read more...] about How do I stop obsessing over people and things?
How do I know if my feelings are rational or irrational?
Dear Christina, I've heard you talk before about how our feelings can either be rational or irrational and the way you describe it makes so much sense. I've never heard someone describe it like you do. Can you describe it again so that I can really get it? It was so helpful to me the first time I heard you say it. -Justin Dear Justin, Hi! Thanks for writing in. I … [Read more...] about How do I know if my feelings are rational or irrational?
What Creates Negative Energy in Us?
Dear Christina, What creates negative energy in us? -Shannon Dear Shannon, Thanks for writing in and asking such a simple but powerful question! I've broken my response down into sections because there's a lot here. Actually, there's far more that I'd like to communicate, however, there's only so much I can fit into a single blog post. So I've tried to keep it … [Read more...] about What Creates Negative Energy in Us?
How Can My Pain be Purposeful?
Would you believe me if I told you that your pain was purposeful? That there is a reason you feel emotional pain and that reason can lead you to a more purpose-filled and powerful way of being? Many years ago, I would have thought that was BS. Many years ago, I would have said that the only reason I was feeling pain was because [blank] and [blank] and [blank] were doing … [Read more...] about How Can My Pain be Purposeful?
My life isn’t the way I want it to be. How do I stop being so angry at everyone and everything?
Dear Christina, This is going to be hard to convey in one entry. I'm 33 and recently moved out of living with ex-fiancé. I have done weekly therapy for 9 months and tried really hard to learn healthy/respectful/productive ways to argue, and no progress was made. We were together for 4 years. I'd been trying to get pregnant for the last 9 months without any success, which now … [Read more...] about My life isn’t the way I want it to be. How do I stop being so angry at everyone and everything?
Why can’t I push past the barriers that are in my mind?
Dear Christina, Why can’t I push past the barriers in my mind, whether they originated from me or others? I used to think that I couldn’t push past my limits, didn’t find a reason to, or just didn’t try to until recently where I’ve made the effort to change my mindset and how I view myself. I want to be able to move on and move forward. But it seems to me that I can’t … [Read more...] about Why can’t I push past the barriers that are in my mind?
How do I forgive my mom and my family for the pain they caused me?
Dear Christina, Thank you for the last video you made about my mom. After listening to it I realized that I still have some resentment towards her and my family for their lack of belief in me and for misjudging me and making me feel like I had to always show up in a certain way to get their love and attention. I find it hard for me to forgive them. I still feel the pain … [Read more...] about How do I forgive my mom and my family for the pain they caused me?
How do I handle my mom’s dreams for my life?
Dear Christina, This weekend I went out to eat with my mom and aunt. And it was interesting for me to see the situation my mom is in. For basically all my life, she had been pushing me to become a nurse because "I'll always have a job", she would say. But to this day she is looking for a new job, on unemployment, and never looking to retire. -Anonymous Dear … [Read more...] about How do I handle my mom’s dreams for my life?
I have dreams for my life, but I fear success.
Dear Christina, I was doing some reflecting, and it came to my attention that in a way I fear success. Mainly because I’ve never really accomplished anything yet (nothing really to brag about). I was thinking to myself about how much I’d make if I’d do my first real estate deal. Even on the low side, I’m looking to make a five-figure profit. That would be the most amount of … [Read more...] about I have dreams for my life, but I fear success.
How Do I Still Love the People Who Do Things I Hate?
Dear Christina, How do I still love the people who do things I hate? I have a brother-in-law who does things that I absolutely hate. He is always being negative and mean to my sister and he treats her poorly. And I just can’t help but hate him for it. I don’t want to hate him, but I do. Please help me. -Janice Dear Janice, Thank you for writing in. :) You’re … [Read more...] about How Do I Still Love the People Who Do Things I Hate?
Why Your Mindset Matters
Have you ever thought about how much your mindset matters in relationship to how it feels to live your life? Most people don't. Most people just feel what they feel and they think everyone else is responsible for it. I used to, too. But, I've learned, there's another way to be; one that's freeing. I used to think that everyone else was responsible for how I felt in any given … [Read more...] about Why Your Mindset Matters