Dear Christina, I've heard you talk before about how our feelings can either be rational or irrational and the way you describe it makes so much sense. I've never heard someone describe it like you do. Can you describe it again so that I can really get it? It was so helpful to me the first time I heard you say it. -Justin Dear Justin, Hi! Thanks for writing in. I … [Read more...] about How do I know if my feelings are rational or irrational?
How do I honor God in all things?
Dear Christina, The other day I saw a Bible verse that said honor God in all things that I do. How do I even do that? What does that look like? -Anonymous Dear Anonymous, Thank you for writing in and asking such a simple yet profound question. Interestingly, I believe that the answer to healing the world and the heart and mind of every human lies in the answer to … [Read more...] about How do I honor God in all things?
How do I move past a boss who’s blocking my career growth?
Dear Christina, I have a boss that is stifling my career. I need to move past him. It has gotten to a ridiculous point. He controls my pay, promotions, etc. I believe he feels threatened by my education and experience. -Clay Dear Clay, Thank you for writing in. I’m sorry to hear that you feel like your boss is stifling your career. I know there are many people who … [Read more...] about How do I move past a boss who’s blocking my career growth?
Why can’t I accomplish my dreams?
Dear Christina, Here are my questions for you: I started following a new internet personality. I really like what he has to say, despite him being very offensive to most people. After watching a lot of his content and joining his course, I realized how much of a lazy loser I am. I’ve been in the program for 3+ months and made $0. Whereas people younger than me (14-15 … [Read more...] about Why can’t I accomplish my dreams?
How do I handle a recent breakup?
Dear Christina, My boyfriend of seven months broke up with me on Friday. We did long distance (bordering states) and saw each other about two weekends a month since he’s a Marine. Our relationship seemed healthy, and we discussed plans for engagement when he gets back from deployment (October-April). We talked about our future together while having fun in the present. He … [Read more...] about How do I handle a recent breakup?
Why do I feel disconnected from my partner every time there’s conflict?
Dear Christina, I just want clarity on my relationship because I'm having trouble being vulnerable in my connection. I feel like there's a disconnect every time things don’t go a certain way and I'm working on not taking things so personally, even though he’s my first real connection. - Simone Dear Simone, Thank you for writing in and thank you for asking for … [Read more...] about Why do I feel disconnected from my partner every time there’s conflict?
Why Do People Hurt Me So Much?
Dear Christina, Why do people hurt me so much? -Kelsea Dear Kelsea, Thank you for writing in and thank you for asking such a beautiful and vulnerable question. I have learned through my own quest to not be so wounded by other people and things that most often the depths of the hurt I feel in any given moment, is usually a direct sign of the depths of my … [Read more...] about Why Do People Hurt Me So Much?
How Do I Get Out of a Relationship That Isn’t Right for Me?
Dear Christina, How do I get out of a relationship that I know isn't right for me, but I can't seem to make the jump? -Trisha Dear Trisha, Thank you for writing in. Great question. :) I have some initial questions: First, how do you know they're not right for you? Do you fight a lot? Feel small in their presence? Get triggered a lot? Feel bored around … [Read more...] about How Do I Get Out of a Relationship That Isn’t Right for Me?
What Creates Negative Energy in Us?
Dear Christina, What creates negative energy in us? -Shannon Thanks for writing in and asking such a simple but powerful question! I’ve broken my response down into sections because there’s a lot here. Actually, there’s far more that I’d like to communicate, however, there’s only so much I can fit into a single blog post. So I’ve tried to keep it simple (emphasis on … [Read more...] about What Creates Negative Energy in Us?
Free Life Coaching (post)
How Can My Pain be Purposeful?
Would you believe me if I told you that your pain was purposeful? That there is a reason you feel emotional pain and that reason can lead you to a more purpose-filled and powerful way of being? Many years ago, I would have thought that was BS. Many years ago, I would have said that the only reason I was feeling pain was because [blank] and [blank] and [blank] were doing … [Read more...] about How Can My Pain be Purposeful?
Your Feelings Don’t Have to Make Sense
Have you ever shamed yourself for feeling what you feel? Have you ever talked down to yourself and wished you felt differently than you do? So often when I am working with someone, they shame themselves for their feelings or they belittle themselves for being “so stupid” to get hurt or angry or worked up over [blank] or [blank] or [blank]. And I have to lovingly remind … [Read more...] about Your Feelings Don’t Have to Make Sense
How pain from the past shows up in the present moment
Did you know that almost every emotional reaction you have is a result of some past experience, some past painful moment, that is being expressed in the present? And that it's possible to clear the old pain so that you can live more happily in the present moment? Sounds bizarre, I know. But, perhaps a personal story from something that just happened to me will help me to … [Read more...] about How pain from the past shows up in the present moment
My life isn’t the way I want it to be. How do I stop being so angry at everyone and everything?
Dear Christina, This is going to be hard to convey in one entry. I'm 33 and recently moved out of living with ex-fiancé. I have done weekly therapy for 9 months and tried really hard to learn healthy/respectful/productive ways to argue, and no progress was made. We were together for 4 years. I'd been trying to get pregnant for the last 9 months without any success, which now … [Read more...] about My life isn’t the way I want it to be. How do I stop being so angry at everyone and everything?
I don’t want to leave this world without having meaning in my soul.
Dear Christina, Not long ago, I saw one of your videos talking about the inner child. I started talking and praying to my inner child to try to heal him and to heal me. I know a lot of people have had bad experiences and some way worse than me, but what concerns me is that there’s so much unusual pain of not knowing what real love is. I think I do, but it seems it’s not in … [Read more...] about I don’t want to leave this world without having meaning in my soul.